Toxic People - Here and There

Saya gak pernah bisa mengerti kenapa orang bisa bersikap 'toxic' terhadap orang lain, dan tidak merasa bersalah sama sekali. Orang-orang 'toxic' tidak pernah merasa perlu meminta maaf, walaupun dia yang bersalah.

Saya mengenal sebuah lingkungan, yang di mana isinya sebagian besar adalah orang-orang 'toxic' dengan sikap yang 'toxic'. 'Toxic' di sini adalah racun. Yang dimaksud orang 'toxic' adalah orang yang selalu menebarkan sikap negatif terhadap lingkungannya sehingga lingkungan tersebut dalam kuasanya, yang disebut dengan 'toxic behavior'.

Ada yang bersikap sebagai manipulator ulung, dengan tingkat jaim yang luar biasa. Siapapun yang ada di hadapan dia, merupakan orang yang salah, dan dia selalu benar. Ketika orang ini salah, dia dengan tenang menunjuk dengan tangannya, dan mengatakan bahwa orang ini merupakan sumber masalah dari semua masalah. Orang-orang 'toxic' selalu berfokus kepada masalah, bukan solusi.

Ada juga yang selalu iri atas keberhasilan orang lain. Ketika ada maunya, dia baru baik kepada orang itu, ketika gak ada maunya, dia akan berusaha sekuat mungkin menjelek-jelekkan orang tersebut supaya namanya buruk di hadapan orang lain. Bahkan tak segan membuat fitnah. 

Bayangkan kalau orang 'toxic' ini lebih dari satu. Grup orang 'toxic' juga tidak membuat keadaan lebih baik, tapi lucunya ada beberapa situasi yang membuat yang berwenang cenderung 'mengabaikan' fakta ini demi kepentingan pribadi.

Saya bersyukur diberikan pelajaran tentang hal ini, jadi saya mengetahui apa yang harus dilakukan.

Saran saya, apabila kalian sudah tidak tahan dengan lingkungan seperti ini, jauhkan diri kalian darinya. Karena hal ini bisa menjadi penyebab berbagai macam penyakit mematikan, dan tidak bisa dianggap remeh.

Berikut link dari salah satu artikel yang saya temukan mengenai ciri-ciri 'toxic people':
Ciri-ciri 'Toxic People'

Sharon Carter?

This is about Captain America and Sharon Carter. Again.

Can I speak a bit about this?

Since Anthony and Joe Russo didn't specifically focused on the love story between Steve Rogers and Sharon Carter, I came with new ideas.

Is it possible to just have Sharon in one of those Marvel's TV series? I mean, like, Agent's of SHIELD (a cameo, maybe?), or create a new serial? Agent Carter is cancelled. Why can't we create another one? Like, Agent 13? We can move on to the life of Sharon after SHIELD fell, or after Cap went AWOL. If Marvel is afraid to create another story with the lead of female superhero, you can add Hawkeye, or Bobbi Morse (Mockingbird)! I miss Bobbi Morse so bad, I want her back to Agents of SHIELD. :( By adding new characters, it could spice up the story (with good story line, of course!). Maybe this could be projected once the Infinity War ends. Since Cap will pass the shield to someone else (Bucky, maybe?), so I think it could be a good start to build a new story with Sharon as well. Maybe the same timeline with the New Avengers? ;) Ooo, I'm excited with my own ideas! :D

But, please, Marvel, could you, please, at least, consider this? Pretty pleaaaaase......

I like Sharon Carter. But I feel like her performance so far was underrated. She's as good as Black Widow, or maybe even better! ;)

I just read another article about her possibility of involved in Avengers 3 Infinity War, and she said she's not involved.

Read the details over here:

https://www.bleedingcool.com/2017/08/03/emily-vancamp-says-sharon-carter-wont-be-in-avengers-infinity-war/

Marvel, I'm begging you get Agent 13 to be under the spotlight! Make her as an awesome agent as she is! Please, just give it a try!

The Voice

What is it with the big trees and old people?

Sometimes people who close to us aren't we think they would be. That means a lot of things change, or not change - maybe we just don't know it.

And sometimes people who close to us are the ones who are capable of hurting us the most. It won't go easy, but it makes you think. 

In times like this, I figure that it would be easy to change it, to make them understand the perspective which I've had, the paradigm which shifts constantly, every thing. But, no, unfortunately, that's not gonna happen.

It will take some time. And most likely, it will depend on their characters as well.

That when people put some comments and comparison on the "the bigger the tree, the more difficult for you to cut it all from the roots." - It applies to human beings too. The older they are, the more difficult for young people to express their opinions to them. When young people stand to their opinion, it could hurt the older people's pride. So, it's all about ego. Suprise, surprise.

And guess who's bothered with that kind of example? Yup. Me.

What is it with people who stick with their beliefs without knowing that changes are all around them? That each person has each thought and a very specific opinion about something. Is that wrong? Is that not wrong? What are you supposedly to do? Are you just going to scream it out? Or you just want to shut up in order to make those people understand that we just want to appreciated, and be heard. Not be judged.

What is it with people who are too stubborn to see it?

I just don't get what it is actually the purpose of my existence if I'm not allowed to make a voice, to make a difference? To just make people listen to me. Is it because I'm just a female? I'm still young?

You tell me. Cause I'm freaking hate to think that I still don't know what I'm supposed to do right now. What is the purpose? Anyone can tell me?

Once Upon A Time... I May Have Met A Backstabber.

Satu waktu ketika menyadari bahwa ada "musuh dalam selimut" di dalam hidupmu, dan selama ini begitu bodohnya bercerita tentang semuanya pada orang itu.

"The backstabber" - I may have called it.

Ternyata gak gampang mencari seorang teman baik, yang ikhlas berteman dengan kita, yang tidak segampang itu menimbulkan permusuhan dengan temannya sendiri. 

Satu hal yang disadari, bahwa orang ini tidak cukup dewasa untuk menilai bahwa dirinya yang salah, telah mencampuri hidup orang lain, tanpa sadar bahwa dia sendiri tidak becus mengurus hidupnya.

Aku hanya bisa mendoakan semoga dia bisa mendapat hidayah untuk tidak mengulangi perbuatannya, dan menyadari bahwa dia harus segera minta maaf setulus-tulusnya kepada orang-orang yang sudah dia sakiti, jika dia ingin bahagia dalam hidupnya.

Grant Gustin in 'The Flesh'?

I don't know why the more I'm watching Grant Gustin in The Flash, the cuter he seems?



You see what I mean?

I didn't even ship him in Glee back then. Maybe because he was just another weird guy who loves singing and dancing. And I wasn't impressed at all.

But now? Oh wow. It's like you've been knowing someone for so long, you forget how special they actually are in your heart. Nope, I'm not talking about Iris West and Barry Allen. I'm talking about me and Grant Gustin. And, no, I don't know him. I'm just an ordinary girl from another universe (no pun intended - I'm not a girl from Earth-2 or Earth-3, or any Earth-something, for all I care) which he couldn't careless about.

I'm not sure what is it that's from him could attract me? Maybe his slenderness? Even his sense of fashion kicks me in the heart. It's like, "that's my type of outfit, if I have a boyfriend/husband!" - and it's kicking me. Hard.

Simple. Attractive. Effortless.



What's not to like? Shirt behind the sweater? Jeans? The jacket? And sneakers? You're killing me, Gustin!

And also, I think I might consider his posture too. He, I can say, a slender guy. And tall. And I like that kind of guy. I think I've always find the 'tall factor' as a sense of 'protective guy'.

I can't even say that he's cute. His face is just... different. If cuteness has several types, it might be included in 'I'm-nerd-and-not-too-cute-but-you-will-like-me-anyway' kind of thing.

I'll put comments about The Flash (Season 2, in particular) in my next blog later. In the meantime, I will just enjoy seeing Gustin in it. :)

Between Captain America, Peggy Carter, and Sharon Carter

Do you know what's the first thing that came in mind when I watched Steve Rogers and Sharon Carter shared a kiss in Captain America: Civil War? It's cute! - to be honest.

I ship them both. 

Not that I don't like Steve with Peggy when they both shared the same thing in Captain America: The First Avenger. It's just... Steve needs to move on. And mind the bond thing between Peggy and Sharon, the fact that they both are aunt and niece! 

So, I just a bit disappointed when I read Hayley Atwell's comment when she was asked about this some time ago, as shown below: 

(source: http://www.cinemablend.com/new/Hayley-Atwell-Issue-With-Captain-America-Agent-13-Kiss-Civil-War-135197.html)

Steve deserves love. He's been working so hard to defend America, to fight over his idealism, and he's been sacrificing everything, losing everything - including the dance that he promised to Peggy before the plane crashed into the iceberg (Captain America: The First Avenger - spoiler alert!).

Why does she need to be rude? 

In my opinion, in relate to Peggy-Sharon relative thing, it has nothing to do with the incestuous boundary - for Steve Rogers. He doesn't share the same blood as those two, so what kind of incestuous boundary that we talk about? He's not their relative. End of story.

And remember that Steve and Sharon had met in Captain America: The Winter Soldier. Steve didn't even know that 'Kate' (the alias that Sharon used at the moment) was a Carter! Even relates to Peggy! And they both had fallen for each other from the first meeting! Why blame them?

If Peggy was wise enough, she would've understood that Steve needs to be happy, even if it's not with her. 

But, yeah, I know. This is Hayley's speaking. Not Peggy's. I really like Hayley Atwell, personally. To me, she's a witty and charming person. I was crushed when I found out that Agent Carter was being cancelled. I hope there will any other development for the film/movie in the future, so we can see Agent Carter/Hayley Atwell again!

Also, I'm kind of hoping that MCU will develop more about the love story between Steve and Sharon. I just don't get why they won't show Agent 13's abilities and skills to the world so far? Why only Black Widow? Does this has something to do with movie business, or the contract whatsoever? 

Please, PLEASE, make it happen! Make the love story for Steve-Sharon in the upcoming movies!

Is it too much to fulfill the request? Is it forbidden for a fan to ask for this?

Witches of East End

Spoilers Alert!

I had watched all the ten episodes, and for the fantasy-genre TV serial, it's not bad!

But what I gathered for my perspective that:
1. Funny that they mentioned Ingrid was supposed to be the smart, intelligent one, and yet she made mistakes, TWICE! And for her defense, she said that she already read the 'instructions' based on the book! Which, caused his boyfriend bleeding to death, and conjured his spirit so they could be together. Still, they said Ingrid was the intelligent one? Oh please!

2. For the rebellious type, Freya seems smarter and more mature. I love her more!

3. Isn't it strange that Aunt Wendy was too easy to die? Isn't she supposed to be more experienced when it comes to handle the shifter? As how to detect them, or sense them, or whatever? And by the end of season 1, she only has one life left! Does it mean that she's possibly can be dead at the middle of the story?

4. The girls need practice! If you watch it, please tell me... Which parts that they did that? Weren't the mother already approved for the girls to use their powers? This is really a big question mark.

5. Nothing is wrong with Dash and Killian, except... how can they have powers? As far as I'm concerned, they are not witches.

I haven't read the books, so I cannot know which one is better, or more loveable.

But I'm looking forward to watching the upcoming season. Hopefully it'll be more exciting!